Monday, October 18, 2010

Enormous Consequences for Gays in the Military & DADT

This is good news. The judge ordered the military to stop any & all discharges. The military will comply, but the government is appealing both the actual case ruling and the decision to stop the discharges.

Secretary Gates had said any immediate halt would have enormous consequences. However, this site shows that there have been none since the military stopped discharges per the judge's ruling. We had hoped the government would not appeal the judge's decision, so this order to stop the discharges is not permanent.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

If You're Gay, Please Stay

If You're Gay, Please Stay
By Lee McDaniel, Brown University '94
President, Joplin Gay Lesbian Center
president@joplingaylesbiancenter.com

Remarks to: Brown University LGBTQ Youth Vigil
Robert Student Center/Faunce House Steps
Monday, October 4, 2010

In the style of Harvey Milk, “I am here to recruit you.” No. Not recruit you, but to share in this solemn vigil for these persons whose lives we now honor with our actions and our call to justice. Some of us are like these youths - some of us are gay, some of us are perceived to be gay, some of us are straight, some are lesbian, bi, queer, some of us are still questioning our sexual identities, and some of us are transgender. We are not all the same, but...we all should control our own destinies. We should be free of bullies. We should be free of hate. We should be free of violence. We should be free of discrimination. We should be: wanted, loved, similar, & yet, different.

The new exhibit that opened today at the Sarah Doyle Women's Center gallery is entitled, “ Not At Rubber Ducks Look Alike.” We may all be like those rubber ducks – just ordinary people leading ordinary lives – but we don't all look alike. And guess what? It's no big deal. At least it shouldn't be. But for some people, it is a big deal. This is why we are here today: To create awareness of, and to prevent, the bullying of others. We are here... to education others, to promote diversity, to promote understanding, to honor the lives of these – and ALL – LGBQ youths & persons, To honor them – and our future generations – with the work we do: the work Kelly does, the work the Chaplain does, the work students do, the work I do as president & founder of the LGBTQ Center in my small, rural hometown of Joplin, Missouri... To honor the work we ALL do. Thank you, Kelly. Thank you, Chaplain. Thank you, students. Thank you, Brown.

Eminem's newest music video, released just days ago with Lil Wayne, is entitled, “No Love.” It deals with his own story of being bullied – for whatever reasons – as a kid. It's set against the chorus & hookline of Haddaway's early 90's hit, “What is Love:” “Baby, don't hurt me, don't hurt me.” “Baby, don't hurt me, don't hurt me.” [repeated] “Don't hurt me...no more.”

My message today is that THERE IS LOVE. It's right here for you. For us. We say to all the LGBTQ youth out there:

“If you're gay, please stay.” “If you're queer, we want you here.”

Would you join me in saying this aloud for everyone to hear? For all those who face the violence of bullying?

“if you're gay, please stay.” “If you're queer, we want you here.” [Lead audience & repeat]
Thank you. ##End